Friday, January 18, 2013

The "friends zone" isn't half bad with the right friend

Okay so more on that first love. Aside from knowing each other and it taking us over three years to act on it it's a lot like me and JRs story. What made it even possible, how it got there, what the first step was and the first moments we admitted and acted on our feelings for each other. So I have a type. Not like I see someone and they're hot and I just want them. No this goes more the  'you're my other half' path. I can look at someone. Anyone really and see pretty features but that doesn't change the result of whether I'm going to make friends with them and like them or not. If I don't then I don't. If I do then I do. Looks won't affect how I act with you, how you act will affect how I act with you. There are a few things people do I can't stand and some people do them without thinking about it. Those are the things that I look at more than anything. It's the things you control but do not of your own accord that say the most about you to me. Well that's what makes people friends to me or not.


 Well I was removed from school for a fight I may expand on later and was home schooled from then on. We move shortly after out of the city and to the country and started a small ranch. Now to most country and small ranch may bring to mind the movies where little miss sunshine goes for a stroll and waves hi to all the neighbors and they wave back as she passes by on her way into town. Yeah that doesn't happen. There are no foot paths for walking just a few roads that see to much traffic. A walk to town would take half the day. There aren't that many people out here and those that there are, while nice and often friendly in passing, move out here to get away from running into random people. It was/is lonely as you can imagine. Well before moving I had been in the Boy Scouts so I got to keep going to that once a week. It was my only interaction with people so that would be why I started getting so close. Well at 14 I started venturing its the next step in scouting and it's for boys and girls. Tell now it had been a few years since I had gotten to know a girl. Not since being taken out of school three years ago had I even really spent time around them and that probably had something to do with why I treated them like I did the guys. Fast forward three years. I was at this point getting, to be one of the older scouts, so I had to start helping teach the new ones thing, tents, packs, badges and the like. I was good at teaching and helping other people learn since I had been doing it with my siblings for homeschooling. I even started helping with non scouting things like reading, math and other schooling. Well in the crew with, that's the venturing part of scouts, one of the girls was having trouble with school. Really it was the math things just weren't clicking for her so "hey think you could help me out with this". Looking back I think that was a setup like the "hey if you beat me I'll buy you dinner" I used just to spend more time alone together. Well I did help her out and she did just fine, thanked me and asked if she had any more trouble if she could ask again come to think of it that's the same thing JR and I said. Sure why not I thought I was just being nice and I was. She was fun and we like a lot of the same things so we always had something to do to pass the time after she got the work done. Well this went on for months. Meetings were after school once every other week for a couple hours so people often brought their homework and books for the time after all the talking and planing for camping trips and stuff was over. So once every other week after the meetings we would end up in our own little corner on the floor laid out or sitting next to each other going over her books. This went on for maybe a year of school so heck yeah I thought it was just us being friendly. After awhile other people join in and it was like a little study group. One of us might be better at something than the others and we'd explain it. She said she wasn't really getting as much out of it as she had been and that she was starting something else I can't recall what but asked if I could come over and help her get the hang of it. Again we were all doing it so it made that the norm for me. Well okay we were friends now and that's something friends do right?  Well I got dropped off and we went into the living room kicked off our shoes and had a seat on the floor by the couch. It may seem inappropriate now but she was more in my lap than on the floor. God was I a dunce or just to nice or what? Well we did the homework I called and my parents came to pick me back up. They got there, her mother thanked me for coming over and helping her out. She gave me a hug, something all the people in the crew did, and I left. After the next crew meeting "hey I'm still having some trouble could you come over again?". We were sitting there her in my lay the book in hers and me looking over her shoulder. Still something I like to do with people, just look over their shoulder and watch. This time was much as the first but ended a little differently. We had been over pages talking and explaining things out so we understood it all. We had been doing this for hours now. We'd read a page shed turn in my lap we talked then on to the next and I and on it went. She was the youngest sister and one of her others were always around. I think they were supposed to be keeping an eye on us. I don't know I you g nice and clearly blind to the ways of life. Well the sister that was there got bored so got on the phone and left the room. This is where I it went way differently than the last time. We finished the page she turned again we talked she said it made sense then kisses me. Not a peck on the cheek ether it was a kiss. I mean I liked her it was really a lot like JR and I started just close friends a lot in common helping out and never thinking of it like that. I never saw it coming. No build up no starting slow with a peck on the cheek no asking to try it out like JR asked her girl just straight to the point. After more than a year of just friends hugs and comfy cozy just close friends sitting WTF was that. I didn't really say that but you get the point. I'm sure it was written all over my face to. "Oh my god. You didn't know I liked you?" she asks?

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